While not always easy, talking about sexuality is healthy

Laurie-Ann O'Connor

Mental Health Minute

Sexuality is something that concerns us all. Unfortunately, it is something that many people feel embarrassed or uncomfortable talking about. A simple conversation may be all that stands between you and the start of a new and improved life. Increasingly, research is confirming the emotional and physical benefits from a satisfying sex life.

The potential physical benefits of a satisfying sex life include: reduced risk of both prostate cancer and heart disease, improved sense of smell, better bladder control, pain relief, improved sleep, increased resistance to colds and flu, healthier teeth and improved digestion.

In addition to the physical benefits of sexual intimacy, there are equally powerful emotional benefits including enhanced sense of connection with your partner, increased self-esteem, reduced feelings of depression, increased sense of security, improved memory and a more positive outlook in general.

There are many things that may lead to difficulties or concerns regarding sex. In order to address such matters, it is helpful to identify when and how the issue came to be. Figure out what works well for you, what doesn't work quite so well, and when and how any changes that you may have noticed first appeared. As a general guideline, sexual problems tend to effect desire, arousal or orgasm. In some instances, painful sexual activity can also be present.

Once the issues are clearer in our heads, it is time to start communicating. It may be helpful to begin talking about sex with people we feel comfortable with. It becomes increasingly easier as we do more of it. Once ready, mentioning your sexual concerns to your health care provider will not feel so difficult. It may help to remember that health care workers discuss very personal, intimate, and sexual matters frequently, so you will not be catching them off-guard or with a topic that is new to them.

Many factors may contribute to sexual difficulties. Some of the sexual issues that people are concerned with are associated with adjusting to age-related matters or medication effects. Medications such as those used to treat depression are often associated with decreased sexual desire. Arousal disorders may be worsened or caused by circulatory problems or the medications used to treat these issues.

Regardless of the concern, in many instances there are techniques, practices or medication alternatives that may be used to lessen the degree of impact the issue has for you.

While it may never be easy to talk about sex, practicing is a terrific idea. Not only will you be better able to address areas of concern with your health care providers but you will also be strengthening your connection with your intimate partner and opening doors to a more satisfying sex life. The physical and emotional reasons to establish and maintain frequent sexual interactions are plentiful. It isn't often that something with such potential for fun is also something that is amazingly good for us. Let's take advantage and make the most of this opportunity for physical and emotional well-being. Let's talk about sex.

This column is presented by Manatee Glens. . . Helping Families in Crisis through Mental Health and Addiction Services and supports the community through prevention and recovery.. This not-for-profit health care provider delivers services from seven Manatee County locations including the Manatee Glens East, located at 5233 4th Avenue Circle East on State Road 64. Manatee Glens welcomes your questions about mental health and substance abuse matters. For further information, call 941-782-4299 or send an e-mail to exeoffice@manateeglens.com.

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